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Is Your Past Pointless or Purposeful?

purposefulWhen you look back on your life, do you feel it to be full of things and events that are pointless or purposeful? Is it all just random or is everything in some way relevant?

Our lives are collections of life experiences, education, relationships, griefs, trials, wins, losses, failures and successes. We may see some – or much of it – as a waste. Pointless. But nothing in our lives that we may see as a twist, turn, or detour was a surprise to God.

God doesn’t waste anything. What we may see as “bad,” God wants to use for our good. What we may see as a difficult random road to nowhere, God sees as a purposeful path. A purposeful path He has forged to lead us into the future He has for us.

When God saves us, He doesn’t merely save us from our sins and an eternity separated from Him. He also saves us into a purposeful life serving Him.

For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—  not by works, so that no one can boast.  For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. Ephesians 2:8-10

He works in and through everything in our lives to shape us, equip us, and prepare us for His purposes. For instance, God uses all our trials and difficulties of life to refine and grow us spiritually. He works through them to make us the people He can use for His glory. (See 1 Peter 1:6-7.) He uses our background, education, experiences, and passions to shape us into the tool He needs for the works He has prepared for us.

No matter how random your past road may look to you, it’s God’s purposeful path to His future for you. If you aren’t sure what God wants for your life now, look back. Review see where He has taken you and what He’s allowed into your life.

Your past can bring clarity to your future. Do you see it?

 

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3 Biblical Principles to Guide Your Vote

voting principlesFor weeks now I have thought about writing a post about the presidential election, but have talked myself out of it every time. Until now. After all, the whole process has been so explosive already.

But, I feel as though America is about to throw herself off a cliff and “evangelical Christians” are leading the way. What I can’t figure out is why? God should be Lord of every area of lives, including our vote.

So, what does the Bible say about voting, government, and the Christian? Honestly, I couldn’t go straight to any chapter and verse, so I did a little digging into Scripture. Although the Bible doesn’t say anything directly about a Christian voting for government leaders, I did find some solid principles we can apply to the responsibility of the Christian voter.

First, let’s take a quick step back and look at God’s intent for government. God establishes all rulers and government (Romans 13:1). God’s original purpose for all human authorities is the good of the people they govern (Romans 13:4). Of course, the best “good” for us is God’s good for us. In a perfect world, as God’s representative, a good human leader would be one that reflects God’s character, principles, and purposes in his or her governance.

But we don’t live in a perfect world. We live in a world warped by sin. Many leaders are in it for themselves. Sometimes leaders even purposefully seek to harm those they govern. (God has a lot to say about this, but that will have to wait for another post.) So, how do we decide who to vote for? The following three principles can guide our decisions.

Three Helpful Guidelines for the Christian Voter

  1. Vote for the man or woman who will seek to further God’s will on earth – In Matthew 6:10, Jesus directed His followers to pray for God’s will to be “done on earth as it is in heaven.” No one who follows Jesus should knowingly vote for anyone who stands for values, actions, or goals that directly oppose God’s will. In fact, we should cast our vote for someone who has clearly stated goals and activities that align with God’s will.
  2. Vote for the man or woman who will work to secure religious freedom in our country – In 1 Timothy 2:1-2, Paul told Timothy to pray for those in authority in order that Christians “may live peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness and holiness.” Christians must vote for leaders who will purposefully provide a government framework that allows Christians to openly live out the tenets of our faith.
  3. Vote for the man or woman who displays godly character and values – It’s easy to talk a “godly game.” People can say anything they think the voter wants to here. The proof is in their behavior. The candidate doesn’t even have to be a Christ-follower to have “godly” character. And on the flip side, the candidate can claim to be a Christian but not display godly character. The Bible tells us that God has written his law on the hearts of all people because they know right from wrong and instinctively keep God’s commands (Romans 2:14-15). Leaders who consistently and flagrantly behave in ways contrary to God’s character show themselves to be rebellious toward God. Again, it’s not enough to accept what a candidate says. We must look at their behavior, including the way they treat other people.

What should godly character and values looks like for a leader? Considering the principles above, I think it’s appropriate to apply the qualifications God gives us for church leaders to the realm of government. The following list was compiled from three passages which give us qualifications for church deacons, elders, and overseers. (See 1 Timothy 3:1-13, Titus 1:6-11, and Acts 6:3.)

  • Above reproach
  • Self-controlled
  • Respectable
  • Not a drunkard
  • Gentle
  • Not quarrelsome
  • Not greedy
  • Manages family well
  • Holds to godly truth and values
  • Not overbearing
  • Not quick-tempered
  • Not a “mere talker”
  • Full of wisdom (See my post “8 Characteristics of Godly Wisdom”)

How does your candidate measure up to this list of godly characteristics? Can you apply the 3 principles above and in good conscience vote for the candidate you’ve been supporting? 

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8 Characteristics of Godly Wisdom

8 character wisdomI’ve been watching the presidential campaign with interest and, quite frankly, concern. Will we be able to see through all the political junk and elect the person who has the ability and wisdom to best lead America?

Last week, I prepared a Bible study lesson on the wisdom of God for our small group. I thought about these candidates. Which of them possess the wisdom that comes from God?

Whether we are deciding how to vote or seeking to live our own lives with God’s wisdom, it’s important to know what His wisdom looks like so we can recognize it, live by it.

What is Godly Wisdom?

Wisdom is not the same as knowledge. We can know a lot of stuff and still be foolish. You don’t have to look far to see examples – just listen to a presidential debate. I love this description of godly wisdom from Wayne Grudem in his book “Systematic Theology.” (By the way, this is a staple for your library if you want to study God’s Word!)

“God’s wisdom means that God always chooses the best goals and the best means to those goals. This definition goes beyond the idea of God knowing all things and specifies that God’s decisions about what He will do are always wise decisions: that is, they always will bring about the best results (from God’s ultimate perspective), and they will bring about those results through the best possible means.”

Applied to us, if we want to be truly wise, we will make decisions and act in ways to move toward God’s ultimate best.

How Do We Get Godly Wisdom?

Wisdom is found in and begins with God. We find true wisdom on the basis of our relationship with Him. We find true wisdom by humbly submitting to God and obeying His commands.

“The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom; all who follow His precepts have good understanding.” Psalm 111:10

Here’s the kicker – the flip side of that is also true. If we don’t yield to God and His good leadership, but instead follow our own will, way, and “wisdom,” then we are really foolish.

What does Wisdom Look Like? 8 Characteristics of Wisdom

We could scour the book of Proverbs and come up with a long, long list of characteristics. But there’s this great passage in James that packs a lot into just a few verses. The following characteristics are based on James 3:13-18:

  1. Humble – Wise people don’t constantly brag, boast, or display a prideful attitude.
  2. Good deeds – Wise people live an upright and moral life.
  3. Gentle – Wise people treat others with care and respect.
  4. Considerate – Wise people put the needs of others ahead of themselves whenever possible.
  5. Peace-loving – Wise people don’t foster division. Instead they work to end strife and turmoil.
  6. Merciful – Wise people demonstrate compassion, forgiveness, and kindness to others.
  7. Sincere – Wise people are genuine, real, and honest; not deceitful, hypocritical, or false.
  8. Impartial – Wise people are fair and just. They do not show partiality to others for their own benefit.

This is a serious and specific list. Do you know anyone who is wise? Do any of the presidential candidates measure up to this list? If their life demonstrates these characteristics then I would say “yes.” If not, then maybe not. I must admit, this list challenges me. I want my life to demonstrate godly wisdom. What about you?

Do you know anyone that is truly, biblically wise? I’d love to hear about them.

You may also be interested in this post: “Wisdom: Why, Where, and How”

Check out Wayne Grudem’s book “Systematic Theology”

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Do You have Vision?

VisionDoes your church have a “vision” statement? Maybe you even have a personal vision statement, purpose statement, or mission statement for your own life. There’s nothing wrong with this as long as it directly reflects God’s vision and purpose for your church or your life.

Unfortunately, some of us have developed these “vision” statements to communicate our own hopes, dreams, and goals. And sadly, sometimes we recite Proverbs 29:18 to back up this practice. You’ve probably heard the KJV version of Proverbs 29:18.

“Where there is no vision, the people perish; but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.” Proverbs 29:18, KJV

Sadly, Proverbs 29:18 falls near the top of almost every list of Bible verses that are misunderstood, abused, or taken out of context. As we humans so often do, we look at it from our perspective instead of God’s perspective. We want to be the one with “vision.” We want to pursue our big hopes and dreams.

So, let’s take a look at the original meaning of Proverbs 29:18 to discover how we should understand and apply it. Considering the meaning of a few of the Hebrew words from this verse will help:

  • Vision (English word used in the King James Version) – means “to see with the eyes, either physically or spiritually.” Here, given the context, the spiritual is obviously meant. Therefore, “vision” in Proverbs 29:18 refers to a “revelation, oracle, or prophecy.” In other words, “divine communication.” It originates with God and is given to mankind through His prophets or the Bible. We “see” it and “understand.” This “vision” does not originate with us.
  • People – Refers to “people or nation.” This verse does not necessarily speak to individuals but groups of people joined in some kind of relationship like a nation.
  • Perish – Means “undisciplined, let go of all restraint, run wild.”
  • Keepeth – Means to “observe” or “give heed.”
  • Law – Generally “teaching, doctrine, direction, or instruction.” It can also refer specifically to the Law of Moses (Torah).
  • Happy – Means “happiness, blessedness.”

Properly understood, Proverbs 29:18 gives us very wise advice indeed. Those who don’t observe God’s revelation live undisciplined, unrestrained lives and suffer the consequences. But those who live by God’s Word will experience His blessing.

The New Living Translation reflects the correct meaning in modern language:

“When people do not accept divine guidance, they run wild. But whoever obeys the law is happy.” Proverbs 29:18, NLT

Is His vision our vision? Or are we operating under a vision of our own making? Our spiritual and eternal well being – as individuals yes, but certainly as communities and nations – depends on our obedience to God’s Word. When we scoff at or turn away from His divine law we suffer the results of our unrestrained living. But when we keep and observe His Word, our obedience will be “blessed.” (Side note: that doesn’t necessarily mean physical prosperity. God’s presence and His spiritual, eternal blessings are far greater!)

So, what is your “vision?” What is the “vision” of your family, community, nation? What results of that “vision” do you see around you?

 

 

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Proverbs 22:6 is NOT a Promise

Proverbs 22:6Once in a ladies’ Bible study group, a young mother of three small boys made a bold declaration. “If you raise your kids correctly and to follow God, they will never rebel.”

Her words hit the room like a wrecking ball. Most of us knew that two godly mothers in the group were dealing with rebellious teenagers. You could see the anguish on their faces. And the empathy on the faces of most of the rest of the group. “Young mother of three small boys” was clueless.

As the leader, I knew I had to do something. As graciously and kindly as possibly I attempted to minimize the damage she had done.

I have no doubt this young woman meant well, but she should never have made this statement. She was claiming something to be fact, but was not speaking from a place of knowledge or experience. Her boys were all five and under. I mean, seriously, what did she know about rebellious kids?

So if her statement didn’t come from knowledge or experience, where did she get the idea that if you raise your children “correctly” they won’t ever stray? More than likely, she got it from the Bible book of Proverbs. You may be familiar with the verse too:

“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6

Yes, the verse – like all the others in Scripture – is the inspired, authoritative Word of God. But “young mother of three small boys,” and many of us too, have wrongly claimed this verse as a blanket promise from God. We may have even been taught that this is a promise from God.

Over the last couple of Thursdays, I’ve posted about verses that are often misunderstood because they are taken out of context. (See also, “Do you misuse Philippians 4:13” and “What’s the Good of Romans 8:28.”) Proverbs 22:6 is often misunderstood because we fail to consider the literature genre.

The book of Proverbs is classified as wisdom literature. “The Introduction to Biblical Interpretation” by Dr. William Klein and Dr. Craig Blomberg define a proverb like this:

“By nature proverbs are not absolute promises from God that guarantee the promised outcome if one follows them. Rather, they point out patterns of conduct that, if followed, give one the best chance of success. In other words, they offer general principles for successful living rather than a comprehensive “legal code for life'” (page 315).

Considering the nature of a proverb then, God does not promise us that if we diligently teach our children about God and His ways, and raise them to love Him they will grow into godly, responsible adults. Though it is far more likely to turn out that way if we do, then if we don’t.

The grief of many godly parents has been multiplied because they misunderstood Proverbs 22:6. Jen Wilken comments on this in her book “Women of the Word:”

“Reading a proverb as a promise can lead to heartache and doubt. Understanding it as a general rule for life can point us toward wise decision-making.”

Many godly parents have taken this verse as a promise. But then their teenager rebelled or their young adult walked away from the faith. The parents were shaken to the core. Where did we go wrong? Why did God allow this to happen? Why wasn’t God faithful?

So, what do we do with Proverbs 22:6? And all the other proverbs? We accept them as God’s inspired Word. We read and study them. We embrace them as the best principles to live lives that please and honor God. And we entrust our children to God who is indeed faithful!

Have you ever misunderstood Proverbs 22:6 as a promise? Have you been “disappointed” by Proverbs 22:6? How can we find comfort in the truth that this verse is not a promise?

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Wisdom: Why, Where, and How

WisdomI’ve been reading through the Bible book of Proverbs during my morning quiet time. Written almost 3,000 years ago by Israel’s king Solomon, the wisdom found there is just as relevant today. This collection of proverbs or “wise sayings” encourages us to seek God’s wisdom and apply it to our lives.

Sounds good right? But you may have a few questions. Like:

  • Why should we want wisdom?
  • Where do we find wisdom?
  • How do we gain wisdom?

Guess what? This book of wisdom answers all those questions too.

Why Wisdom? 10 Reasons We Should Want It

Benefits of seeking wisdom and acting wisely are woven through the book of Proverbs. I could have listed many more, but these 10 are reasons that were mentioned repeatedly:

  1. To increase knowledge (Proverbs 1:4)
  2. To find purpose for my life (Proverbs 1:4)
  3. To get guidance (Proverbs 1:5)
  4. To know God better (Proverbs 2:5)
  5. To rest in God’s protection (Proverbs 2:7)
  6. To find the right course of action (Proverbs 2:9)
  7. To escape the consequences of sin and folly (Proverbs 3:25, 33)
  8. To find favor with God and other people (Proverbs 3:4)
  9. To develop discretion (Proverbs 5:2)
  10. To please God with my life (Proverbs 8:35)

Where Do We Find Wisdom?

We won’t find wisdom in textbooks or on the Internet. We won’t find it in the leaders of the world or your favorite talk show host. There is only one source for wisdom:

“For the LORD gives wisdom and from His mouth come knowledge and understanding.” Proverbs 2:6

Wisdom belongs to God (Job 12:13). He created it (Proverbs 8:22). If we desire wisdom we must go to Him to receive it.

How Do We Gain God’s Wisdom?

God is the source of wisdom, but how do we receive it from Him? Where do you start? Proverbs 9:10 tells us, “Fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom. Knowledge of the Holy One results in understanding.”

Okay. Sounds good, but what does that mean? What does it look like?

Godly “fear” is an attitude that recognizes the power, authority, omniscience, and total transcendence of God. This recognition fosters trust. We trust that everywhere He leads is right and every path He guides us down is the best one for us. We will listen to His guidance. We will follow His lead and obey His instruction. Thus, we will walk in His wisdom.

Godly fear leads to godly wisdom. Want to be wise? Fear God.

Wisdom. Want it? Great benefits for life come from fearing Him who is the true Source of wisdom.

What are you doing today to either seek or apply God’s wisdom?

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Mug Monday: Laughter is Good Medicine

Mug MondayIt’s Mug Monday! Join me each week through the summer to see the featured mug (some mine, some yours, & some borrowed). We will seek to make some sense out of the wisdom or humor written on its side. Pull up a chair and join me in a cup of coffee!

Chuckle. Cackle. Chortle.

Giggle. Guffaw.

Snicker. Crack up.

LAUGH.

Do you love to laugh? Or do you think too much laughter is simply a waste of time?

Today’s Mug Monday coffee mug reminds me of an old, familiar saying about laughter:

Laughter is the best medicine.

Did you know there is a lot of truth in that statement? Laughter really does help us -emotionally, physically, and relationally.

LaughterI read through a few online articles and found out scientific evidence supports the benefit of laughter. Here are a few of the ways laughter helps us physically and emotionally:

  • Increases blood flow and oxygen levels
  • Lowers blood sugar
  • Promotes relaxation and sleep
  • Boosts the immune system
  • Reduces stress and soothes tension
  • Reduces pain by releasing endorphins
  • Improves mood by lessening depression & anxiety

Laughter also helps us relationally. Of course laughter is most likely to happen when we are around other people. And it is contagious. When we laugh, others join in. Sharing a laugh triggers positive feelings between people. Laughter brings people together, building new relationships and strengthening existing ones.

Physically, emotionally, and relationally, laughter is indeed good medicine.

A marvelous truth: God created laughter. It wasn’t an accident. It didn’t “just happen.” When God designed humans, He purposefully wired us with this weird, wonderful ability to laugh – to find humor in the situations of life and share playful conversation with other people.

He not only designed laughter to bring fun and joy to life, He also uniquely shaped it so it would do us good:

A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit saps a person’s strength. Proverbs 17:22

Laughter is not a time-waster or frivolous. It is necessary for a healthy, joyful life. So, let’s follow God’s wise advice.

Go ahead! Laugh out loud!

When was the last time you laughed so hard you cried?

Other articles you may find helpful:

Stress Relief from Laughter? It’s No Joke

7 Health Benefits of Laughter

Laughter is the Best Medicine

 

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Our Battle with the Green-Eyed Monster

wisdom, proverbsJealousy is a beast. Often referred to as “the green-eyed monster,” it hungrily devours our peace, contentment, and joy leaving nothing but decay in its wake. Shakespeare, who coined this metaphor for jealousy in his play “Othello,” knew it’s destructive power. Perhaps he had this proverb on the side of his coffee mug.

A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30, NIV

I’ll be honest with you. I have green eyes, both literally and metaphorically. Jealousy is something I’ve struggled with over the years. Correct me if I’m wrong, but I think most women share this struggle.

One of the biggest areas of envy is the comparison trap. I know it has caught me over and over.

She’s thinner… prettier… funnier… smarter… richer… more popular… (insert your own particular source of jealousy here)… than me. I wish I had/was that. I don’t like her. I’m unhappy. I’ll never be happy.

A drop of jealousy can begin a downward spiral that spins us right into decaying despair. Rotting bones.

Jealousy is a strong, even overwhelming emotion. We see a possession or quality that belongs to someone else and we want it. And we don’t want them to have it. Jealousy is hostile, disruptive, and consuming.

Think about the last time you felt jealous. What did you see that you wanted? Who possessed it? How did you feel about that person? How did you feel about yourself?

Jealousy plants decay in our hearts and souls. It eats us up from the inside out. It derails the abundant life Jesus says belongs to us in Him. And we do it to ourselves.

envy, jealousy, Proverbs 14:30Oh, the world is filled with an endless supply of things that can spark jealousy. How can we kill that dreaded green-eyed monster?

King David – who definitely had some experience with jealousy – reveals the kill shot in Psalm 37.

1 Don’t worry about the wicked or envy those who do wrong. For like grass, they soon fade away. Like spring flowers, they soon wither. Trust in the Lord and do good. Then you will live safely in the land and prosper. Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you your heart’s desires.  Psalm 37:1-4, NLT

We get jealous because we’re focused on ourselves. We must focus our eyes, our hearts, our desires on Jesus instead. The more we look at Him, the more we want Him. The more we want Him, the less of everything else we’ll want. Then what we desire and what God wants to give us will be the same thing!

The more of Him we want, the more of Him we’ll have. And unlike the stuff of the world, Jesus will complete satisfy our “wanter.” Isn’t God miraculous?

Focus on Jesus. Slay the green-eyed monster. Experience joy and satisfaction.

What is your weak spot? Where in your life does the green-eyed monster most often attack? What have been the repercussions in your life?

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A Pig with a Nose Ring

Have you ever seen a pig with a gold ring in its nose? I haven’t, but I’ve seen the equivalent many times. You probably have too. Check out this morsel of ancient wisdom to see what I mean:

A woman who is beautiful but lacks discretion is like a gold ring in a pig’s snout. Proverbs 11:22, NLT

Pig with ringWould you ever entrust a valuable ring of gold to a mud-wallowing, slop-eating sow? Of course not, it would be a waste! Likewise, physical beauty is wasted on a woman with low morals, poor ethics, and a loose, unguarded tongue. Unfortunately, a lot of beauty is going to waste around us today.

Numerous celebrities jump to mind as illustrations of this proverb. I won’t name names, but you know them too. These women have lovely faces and svelte bodies. They dress in only expensive designer fashions. But their speech and behavior is anything but beautiful.

They cheat on their husbands, curse like a sailor, shoplift, drive under the influence, trash talk the actress who took their part – or their man- and demean themselves on a concert stage in front of thousands of cheering fans.

It’s easy to point our fingers at the glaringly obvious. But, if we’re real honest, sometimes we are that bejeweled swine. Sometimes our speech and behavior contradict the beautiful woman of Christ God created us to be.

Gossip, immodesty, poor judgment, ethical compromise, and unfaithfulness are some of the characteristics that could describe a woman who lacks discretion. When we talk and act like the world around us, we are that pig with the gold ring.

God will teach us discretion if we ask Him (Psalm 119:66). Let’s guard our mouths and submit our behavior to the guidance of the Holy Spirit. Let’s be different from the world. Let’s meld beauty with good judgment and in the process bring glory to God and point people to Christ.

Have you ever been that pig with the gold ring in its snout? What would you do differently today?

 

 

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3 Ways to “Build” with Our Words

This post is the first in a short series, “Ancient Wisdom for Today’s Woman.” Each post will highlight a verse from Proverbs and explore how Christian women can apply it to our lives today.

wisdom, proverbsNone of us would purposefully drive our car through our living room window, set our bedroom curtains on fire, or take a sledge hammer to the living room wall. (Though Kathy Bates’ character did do that last thing in the movie “Fried Green Tomatoes.”)

In fact, most of us work hard to care for and protect our homes. We install locks, and smoke detectors. We polish and clean. We replace things that get broken and paint shabby surfaces. Unfortunately, sometimes we care more for our physical homes than for the people who live in them.

sledge hammerSometimes we do pick up sledge hammers. But it’s not brick and mortar house we slam. Not the house, but the household. The family who dwells within. We wreak destruction with our words and our attitudes and our absence. We tear down fragile hopes and dreams with thoughtlessness and indifference.

This is nothing new. Wise King Solomon even witnessed this widespread tragedy about 3,000 years ago:

A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands. Proverbs 14:1

How does this happen? Why would a woman – even a Christian woman – “tear down” (beat down, break down, ruin, destroy) the family she loves?

I dare say that none of us would do this on purpose or in one fell swoop. Instead, we tear down our loved ones a brick at a time in moments when our spiritual guard is down. Times when we are overwhelmed or tired or busy or anxious. In those moments when we aren’t leaning on Jesus.

Solomon calls this woman “foolish.” He also said we can recognize a fool when she opens her mouth (Proverbs 17:28), so it’s no surprise that our tool of destruction is usually our words.

Words are powerful. They can either build up or tear down (Ephesians 4:29). Destructive words discourage, deflate, and divide. Constructive words build up, encourage, and unify. (For more about words that “build up” see Words of Grace.)

Here are three ways we can purposefully use our words to build up and not tear down:

  1. Share God’s Word (Acts 20:32) – When we keep the Bible central in our homes, our spouse, children, grandchildren will thrive on its truth. Talk about it, read it, memorize it together. As each member of the family grows in their relationship with God, they will also grow in their relationship with each other.
  2. Pray for Them (Jude 20) – Whenever we regularly pray for another person, God seems to change our heart and attitude toward them. That change will in turn affect how we talk to them and treat them. We can pray for our family members in our personal time with God, but let’s also pray with them and over them.  As we pray, they’ll hear our heart for them.
  3. Everyday Conversation (1 Thessalonians 5:11) – We tend to underestimate the impact of our day-to-day, normal interaction with our family members. Every word we say has the potential to tear down or build up. Anger, half-truths, deception, ridicule, insults, gossip, selfishness, berating, and more destroy relationships and injure the individual. But kindness, gentleness, forgiveness, humility, and compassion build relationships and encourage the individual (Colossians 3:8, Ephesians 4:25-5:7).

Let’s lay down the sledge hammer and ask God to guard our heart and our mouths. Let’s be women of wisdom who use our words to build up and encourage.

Who in your life needs a little “building up?” What is one specific way you can use your words to build them up today?

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